Mindfulness and Coping with Change

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Change is inevitable. We have to accept this. Change is inevitable; there is nothing to argue with that. All we can do is to handle it and keep on living our lives. It is how we perceive change that can make this experience an interesting or even liberating one or rather terrifying. How can we become more resilient in our lives so that unexpected or seemingly uncontrollable change does not take us off track? The most important step is to accept that change is part of our life. No matter how much we try to control people or events to stay the way we know – and therefore rest in our comfort zone – all will be over, new, gone, or different sooner or later. Accepting this fact can help a lot in letting go of the resistance we often feel when being confronted with something new or unexpected. Things may not turn out the way we planned or hoped for, but accepting this will help a lot in keeping our heads clear of too many worrying thoughts and give us some space for the actually dealing with the situation at hand. Tools for experiencing change in daily life Making the intention to stay positive: Feeling the emotions that arise, engaging in self-care and believing in ourselves and in our coping possibilities can help a lot in remaining positive. Journaling may help us to stay in line with the bigger picture and our core values. We can put our thoughts and worries into words and bring some order to the perceived chaos and the unknown. Being aware that change can trigger patterns of thoughts: “I could have done better.” “What will happen next?” Remembering that we are not our thoughts, even if they feel very real. We can ask ourselves: Is this thought really true? Or is it just a mind pattern, arising out of habit or our felt need of protection against uncertainty? Being organized and open-minded. We can try to be prepared and to consciously plan ahead, for example when moving to another country with the whole family. Thorough planning may not free us from having to face a lot of stress and uncertainties, but it can help us to feel more secure and resilient and to approach sudden stressors with a clear and focused mind. Coming back to our bodies time and again and feeling the sensations in the body, feeling the breath or the feet on the ground. Try to find an anchor (breath, sensations in the hands, sounds, etc.) that can help you to feel grounded when you need something to lean on. Applying self-compassion to ourselves when we are feeling overwhelmed or insecure. Changes such as losing a job or breaking up a relationship can be frightening and very sad. We can acknowledge the fact that this is hard for us right now and that we can allow all feelings to arise. Change is part of everyday life. The one thing that stays stable and solid, however, is our inert awareness that can create a space and observe everything that is going on: outer experiences and our emotions, thoughts and sensations in the body.